"Do everything that you don't like doing' - that's what he said. That the only difference between the successful and the unsuccessful was that the former did EVERYTHING that the latter did not like to you. He talked about a purpose at all times in your life. And then he talked about "habits" - success is all about the habits that you form. Suresh Nair - a trainer said all this in an ICICI training session...not to dwelve any deeper than this..he was fantastic in the first dvd that I watched in Daman...atleast was successful in making me feel miserable at the end of it all...but I am happy because he really ripped me apart from within...so much so that I am now actually ready to do a lot more than what I was doing. Good. Thank you God. Coming back to what I learnt from him...'Successful men make a habit of everything that they don't like to do so that they don't end up 'not' doing it'. It will take an effort to do somthing for 5 days, probably also for the 6th day but not after it has become a habit. It is so very easy to form habits..isn't it? Keep on doing something over and over again until you get used to doing it...and then there is no more effort from your side..it just goes as mechanical as you would want it to be. Just as you want. Just as you started. Until the time it became a 'Habit'.
Let me do a sense check now...
How many times do I like waking up early in the morning at 5 in winters?
How many times do I want to sit till late in the office and work and plan for the next day?
How amny times do I want to actually get into the problem solving mode and take everything that comes in the way of my project as a problem and solve it as if it was my own life's problem?
How many times have I thought of reaching office at 6.30 in the morning and complete the pending work that has been there?
How many times have I set up calls amongst all stakeholders to get everyone on the same page when things seemed to go wrong?
How many times have I been a part of the hiring process to actually make sure the people hired are with the right skill set for my project?
How many times did I go and sit in the training room to check if the trainers were good enough to train my team for the work they are hired for?
ZERO TIMES.
Well, digging deep is fine. Acting upon is important. All the best to me.
And to all you guys out there who want to get down one level deeper into your work, if you haven't already. And if you already do, then well...probably I was not close enough...but what the heck..am coming there....:) soon! And you know what, I better do. I will first begin with saying this over and over again so that I have that mind to always do a sense check..been long actually...you realize when things go wrong, you realize when you don't come up to your expectations, you check when you falter...why always only then? Why not much before..why not everyday? I am yet to live on that edge when I have a purpose everyday at work. Talking of purpose...well..let's dig further....my purpose, like so many other people is pretty subjective and not always monetory. This was one point where I did not agree with Suresh nair completely. You cannot go on and on only with a single track mind of a monetory purpose or goals in life that only revolve around what car have you upgraded to or what plot have you bought recently. While I am really passionate about my work, I am equally engrained to my other life. Its not about money always - its about the peace you get and how you get. The contentment that you get out of doing small things in life. ACtually contentment of doing what your heart wanted you to do. That's bliss.
Two completely different mindsets? Not really if you ask me. One leads to another. Atleast I think so.
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Fascinating! I have read and watched about every bestseller on making money and gaining happiness. Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, Robert Cromwell and others all have basically the same message. the same message, but no real answers. There are two books I highly recommend you reading; Cromwell's, "Acres of Diamonds", and Og Mandino's, "The Greatest Salesman In The World". These two books along with another very special book led me to riches far beyond that you can imagine. At the age of 28 I read these books and began immediately putting into practice what I gleaned from their pages. Within the first year - was breaking sales records and leading the pack in sales. By the second year I attended two parties in my honor. Both were the same night, one on the South side of Atlanta and the other on the North side. During the second year, I took a store that sold watches and clocks, from operating in the red to the top store in the company. Not only th top store in the company, but the top store in the mall where my store was located. I was given charge over my region and was asked to be the mall president. That all happened twenty years ago and the records, my team and I set have not been broken to this day. I continued in this pursuit for years, continuing to break records and ultimately became the manger of a large, well-known jewelry store, part of one of the largest chains in the USA. I had one of their best locations, at the Florida mall, between The Orlando International airport and Disney World. It was all like an incredibly fast roller coaster ride. It was unbelievable, everything I imagined and dreamed. Well, almost. Today I have nothing to show for all those countless hours of work. I lost my wife and kids and everything else I worked so hard for. I am literally the most happy now I have ever been. I have nothing today. Tomorrow who knows, I may walk back out and do it again. Today, however, I actually have time to stop and enjoy the beauty that surrounds me. For over twenty years all I could think about was staying on top. Now all I think about is taking my next photo. Please read the books I mentioned and pursue everything, but remember your heart. That is where I screwed up bi time. I didn't.
I feel that the material aspect of our lives should be the means to achieving that internal balance & peace & not the soul purpose of our existence.
A little less money or success will not kill anyone. But if we are not mentally happy & content with ourselves? What will we do with all the riches of the world?
I am not against this never ending race of reaching the next rung in the ladder.
I feel that we should always do a cost-benefit analysis of the actions in our lives just as we do in our professional lives.
This race should not become the only reason why we exist.
Your prose is quite impressive, Sweetoo. ;-)
Your prose is quite impressive, Sweetoo. ;-)
gsolu, thanks for your time here and sharing your thoughts. Will definitely read those books and also remember your words. In the rat race that we are in, we tend to forget where we belong. You speak as my dad tell me that nothing will compensate for the happiness you invest in your family. Thanks again.
Murari, very very well said. I completely agree with you on the cost-benefot analysis of our life...thanks
Gaurav, o my god...so here you are! Noe please be kind enough to share your email id...been writing to all the wrong gaurav's for such a long time. Hope you are doing fine with your wify...still in bangalore? And impressive, well I am nothing in front of you...which is your latest book in the market? :) tell me tell me...
On a very personal note, I am a good lazy bengali.....hate getting out of bed....can sleep for hours...and unfortunately-am not doing all these things I love-doc jo thehra......which I love being...if you love your job-it's no longer a job but a calling....and trust me the point is never purely financial....there are panwallahs richer than me (am not denigrating the dignity of labour here..) but then they are not what I would like to be....there has to be a calling, a passion (can understand being rich as a passion ) which makes it worthwhile to be JUST YOU....one just has to find it. But yes, I will give you this, I HAVE NO GOOD HABITS AT ALL.....hate that, too late to change-and life is still good......could it have been better-I don't know...but am where I want to be....and with all my family n friends around me-just so much more to be thankful for...enjoy
JUST CAME ACROSS THIS MAIL...just go through
Life's Little Instruction Book
Have a firm handshake.
Look people in the eye.
Sing in the shower.
Own a great stereo system.
Keep secrets.
Never give up on anybody; miracles happen everyday.
Always accept an outstretched hand.
Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be; no one can tell the difference.
Avoid sarcastic remarks.
Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.
Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
Lend only those books you never care to see again.
Never deprive someone of hope it might be all that they have.
When playing games with children, let them win.
Be romantic.
Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
Be a good loser.
Be a good winner.
Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
Keep it simple. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
Don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
Live your life so that your epitaph could read, "No Regrets".
Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the one's you did.
Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.
Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
Begin each day with some of your favorite music.
Once in a while, take the scenic route.
Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, 'Someone who thinks you're terrific.'
Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table,
Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.
Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
Make someone's day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.
Become someone's hero.
Marry only for love.
Count your blessings.
Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home.
Wave at the children on a school bus.
Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on our ability to deal with people.
Don't expect life to be fair
IT SUMS UP SO MUCH SO SIMPLY.....and trust me,just sometimes we make it a lot more complicated.....be easy on yourself-you are a terrific person
Well said Doc.. very well said and the 2nd post - very appropriately quoted... The crux is to keep it simple...
Sanjeev, its only your habits which have got you this far...another thing you dont want to acknowledge that, which I will give it to you. Haven't I sen you going through books and books and books and more books...it may not have been cultivated but it was there. A habit. :)
Thanks,Murari...n thanks my friend,yeah-I am crazy about books....had forgotten that because it was never a habit-kinda came naturally........habits / job have a forced connotation-a calling or a passion is more like my way of putting it.....what comes naturally.......
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