..is it any different from 'I am listening to you'...in my opinion it is....and now am thinking...of many conversations that I have had with people...take this for instance.
Start. Stop. Think. Move on.
Not quite. Not yet. Perhaps Yes. Sure? Not really. Not sure? No, not like that.
Confused. Well, probably. Need time? Perhaps. How long? No, don't need it.
Anything bothering you? Not sure. Speak up. Cannot. Why? Don't know.
Need to think again? No. Yes. NO. Give it a thought. Don't need to.
Well then. Be it. Yes, so be it. But what? Let it be.
...Yeah, let it be. Let you be. Let me be. Let all be.
Why do we all live in sylos? Do we really communicate what we want to? Do I understand how are I come across as someone to everyone or anyone for that matter? Do I spend time in thinking what the person thought of me when I said something? Do I ask other what is their perception of me and how is it different now that they know me? Guess no. Not everyone atleast.
Hmmm...was just thinking aloud. When we make it difficult for the other person to understand us, sometimes it is important that we tell them clearly what we think because that makes life simpler, for us and them. Else it would just boil down to LET IT BE. :) Think about it.
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The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen.....conversation is a lost art & so is listening. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention…. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.As to living in monosyllables-it's again a sign of the times that we live in.....and as G B Shaw so pertinently pointed out "The problem with communication ... is the ILLUSION that it has been accomplished".Have been guilty on both counts more than once-lucky to have a spouse who actually can make some sense of my nonsense
:) Sri was made for you, that's why....and dont i know how fond u are of talking...:)
it comes to let it be when
- Situations are repeating
- when you have given up on yourself and the person
- when things are obvious and the other is not getting
- when you have nothing more to say as the conversation is going no where
I actually like the work 'Let all be' :)
I have seen people who think they have entertained me when they have given me a ear(read as time) ...with such people i think i think the right word to use is let it be :)
anyways i actually typed something but i dont know what happ it all got erased. As of now this is what i can think
have a good day mon
Sharanya..I know what you mean. There are times when you just want to say let all be...and you are actually glad that you get out of such situations and people. No? Anyway, life has its share of ups and down...good thing is we also have the capability to come out of such situations and people. God bless.
You have some nice illustrations of some perfect non-conversations where nothing is really communicated, except, “I could care less what you have to say”.
I have learned to listen intently to the person talking and try to repeat what they say in their words and in my words, so that I am certain I have received and understand what a person is saying. Only then do I respond. This is communicating. It took years for me to learn this.
I found that I often had missed the point during conversations. I was not listening and understanding. Most of the time, I was just thinking about what I was going to say, during conversations.
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