When do you get possessive out of love?
When you know what the other person is doing to someone else is something you would want him to do to you?
Or when you think you should be the one he should do anything and everything to?
Crazy explainations? Yes, I know. I really need to know this. And I still want to understand it with respect to these two lines only. My mind won't relate to anything else. Come on now, help me.
10 comments:
From Brazil a friendly hello with my best wishes:
Geraldo
you get possessive when you are insecure about yourself wrt own love, when you feel "you" are about to lose it, that is when you feel that all these other things that you mention signify that love.
A lot of possessiveness is your own insecurities about yourself.
Pata nai....maybe insecurity, maybe jealousy, may be fear of loosing...
~Sharanya
Tomes have been written & tombs have been built...all for this wonderful word called Love. Trust me ,when we have true love......we actually should be more free......being possessive is actually restrictive to growth-LET IT GO.....at the cost of repetition...that which was yours will always come back to you.Love liberates....it comforts.....and it's wonderful.WHEN DO YOU GET POSSESSIVE......when you lose faith either in your partner or in your own self-and as to why that happens.....well, some other time.
Geraldo...welcome here and god bless. Good to see you.
Anonymous - hmmm...insecurities about your own self, I think I would like to agree with you.
Sharanya - jealousy, insecurity and fear of losing...yeah probably only when you don't have confidence in your own self..
Sanju - true love...what is love? Interesting question...and I shall write about it too..
Maybe i dont know
~sharanya
Sanjay I don't agree with you here... possessive love is not about losing faith in your partner... its about losing faith in yourself only!
"When you know what the other person is doing to someone else is something you would want him to do to you" - This is being jealous!
"Or when you think you should be the one he should do anything and everything to?" - This is being possessive!
Being possessive in love can also mean many other things though....And according to me... being possessive to a certain extent is infact good... coz everyone wants to feel 'wanted' but when it goes overboard (over-possessive)...that's when the relationship becomes suffocating and eventually dies!
Sakshi...yeah it is more to do with us than the other person when it comes to being possessive. However, there are people who would never believe in possession...and I know Sanjeev (and not Sanjay :)for sure would fall under that category...you should speak to him someday and you would know what i mean.
Monika...tell me about people who don't believe in possession... I have a husband who doesn't :) And most of the times I love this quality of his... he gives me as much space as one can... but there are times when you don't need space in life and that's when it hurts! And that's why I said that being possessive to some extent in a relationship is good!
OK..first-thanks ,Monika....you can never write bad about me...hope I am that good & keep the faith.
Hi Sakshi...as Monika pointed out,Sanjeev n not Sanjay....point taken-and just to carry it forward,if you are very sure about your partner.....you wouldn't really need to be possessive-feeling wanted and feeling possessed....TWO SIDES OF THE SAME COIN.....where is the line drawn in any relationship is very specific to the partners in that relationship....that's why I still strongly believe that no universal blanket rule that governs all relations-everyone is welcome to make his/her call....to each,his/her own
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