Wednesday, February 06, 2008

...this LOW on YOU....

Never regret.
If it is good, it's wonderful.
If it is bad, it's experience..
...and like I so very believe in this story of life as a series of experiences - the good, the bad, and the ugly...it is a journey to evolution everyday, if you take it that way. Not sure what triggers this post.....I have a strange problem...when I am low, I like to be low and don't expect anyone to come and ask me about it or anyone to give gyan/comfort/warmth to me...I like that phase and think that it is only me who can handle it and only me who can help myself. People offering to listen, to provide solace, to give comfort etc does not help.
However, when it is a friend who sounds low, I get a little finicky and expect that I can help the person get out of those lows...and often get a feeling of helplessness when the person remains in that phase. I never saw life in that perspective and it is good to experience this...when you see someone else in pain because of yet someone else and you cannot do a shit about it. What do you really do? Well, you seek paper respite, do the customery 'don't worry, things will change'...and blah blah blah...fact remains that you hate it and it hurts you somewhere within...and what worsens the scenario is that YOU can't do a SHIT about it. Not always do things remain in your control.
Hope my friend finds solace and believes in life and the evolution and the experiences and the fact that every cloud has a silver lining. Having said this, I know it is easier said than done....the one suffering, the one in pain knows..and unfortunately has to pay for every such moment. In life, you have to bear your pains all by yourself. Sad, but true.
Does sadness rub on you? I guess it does...and I feel pretty sad right now.
And guess what i want to do right now? Shout out loud...hold all those who are low...shake them up big time....and I really mean it (I don't really believe in hugs that way)..and tell them...Jagooooo...there is a whole new life out there waiting for you.....go get it for yourself..., don't wait for time to do justice for you...the control button to your life is with you...your life cannot be dependent on one soul, your destiny cannot wait to be decided by others...not everything in life happens the way you want it..and so, accept life the way it is for you....and enjoy every bit of it for the moments going by shall never be, people around you may also not be there...

5 comments:

~ ॐ ~ said...

mast likha hai...

par pata hai, shaking someone up when they are low does not really help... atleast I would NEVER do that to someone who is all shaken up already !!!

I rather let the people be like they are, after a few attempts to figure out what can I do to be there, and if staying away is what is needed, I would do that !!!

Oh, and thank you ;)

That was it... said...

@ Om, mast tou main hun hi...tou likhoongi bhi na...:D

You don't shake up - i will. ALWAYS..that's my style..

Thank you story was quite a puzzle but I cracked it finally...you are welcome!

Anonymous said...

Hey,I agree-you can't do shit.............but just be there and I for one am a big time believer in JADOO KI JHAPPI-and it comes with plenty of deaths seen as a doc to realise that the best things in life are SIMPLE (just be there by the side) and FREE (jadoo ki jhappi does work).....and trust me on this-it's not humbug...........speak so from the vantage point of having seen enough as a doc to know that there's always still so much more to learn in our handling of relations

Anonymous said...

@Doc...hmmmm...point in what you say...never actually tried the jadoo ki jhappi....way of dealing with things...

Anonymous said...

Well-try it from the heart...never failed for me-though I do pray that may there be fewer morbid occasions and many more happier ones wherein the jhappi does wonders......OK-flashback to when people meet after 16 yrs in Gurgaon-sometimes WHEN WORDS FAIL YOU-A HUG IS A GREAT SUBSTITUTE.Take care and wish you happier times ahead